T.C.A.G.

Trust yourself. Trust your nature. Trust who you are and that you are right. Trust your mind. Trust that you can get through anything. Trust who you love. Trust that your life is yours and no one else. Trust what you believe - and nothing else should matter.

Challenge yourself. Challenge what you are told. Challenge what are norms and what is accepted. Challenge the world. Challenge your love. Challenge that your life is yours and no one should dictate it. Challenge what others believe - and strengthen what you believe in.

Accept yourself. Accept your faults. Accept you make mistakes. Accept that you are different and that allows for disagreement.  Accept that there is compromise. Accept that you have weakness. Accept that you know yourself better that anyone else, and no one can tell you otherwise.

Give yourself. Give with all your heart.  Give to those you care about. Give to those you love.  Give your time. Give your attention. Give all of what you have until there is no more to give. Give your mind. Give your soul. Give what you can - and you'll receive more than you would ever ask.

Are you a good decision maker?

The interesting thing about giving people advice is that they usually don't want it. All they want is validation that they are right. If you don't think what they think - then you are wrong. So at a certain point the best thing you can tell people is to trust themselves. Of course, that brings us back to original dilemma - they still are asking you if what they are doing is right. So to give those people some peace of mind, I decided to google tips on how to make good decisions that we can all use the evaluate our decision making abilities. These were the results.... with my commentary added of course:

1. Make your decision in advance: Our biggest problem is that we have not pre-destined all of our actions. If we already had robotically planned what we should do in any given situation, we would have no problems. So, for tomorrow, I have decided I will make a million dollars. 

2. Trust your gut: People always talk about whether they should listen to their heart or their head. Apparently the answer is neither. You should listen to your gut. Make your belly button talk. Are you doing it? Good. Then just trust what your belly button said and go with it.

3. Know when to trust experience: Have you been here before? Think of the decision you made in previous situations and evaluate whether that is your preferred scenario. For example, if your preferred scenario is to be in Keira Knightley's bed and you have never achieved that, you are probably doing something wrong. 

4. Activate your network: If you are a terrible decision maker, you should just rely on others to tell you what to do. So in other words, join a cult.

5. Choose your battles: If you have thought way too much over the decision, you have stagnated. Life is going on around you. And you are missing it because you can't choose right, left, up, down, back, forth....  we will never know for sure what's the best way to go. But if we agonize over that and don't choose a direction, we wouldn't grow, experience more, and become who we are destined to be. So at some point we all need to let it go, let life take us.....  and smile.